We have been trained from childhood that our lifes goal is to get best education, earn best salary, get married to the most beautiful man/woman, have kids and continue with the cycle. We deal with our lives as if we are going to be here forever. We are never trained to deal with break in our assumed cycle. Infact, if one is exposed to different ideas, he is perceived to be unusual or different.
Every once in a while, however, when we least expect, life throws a situation at us. Let us call it a “Doosra”, meaning in cricket terminology a different delivery. We need to muster all our resources to deal with fall out of such events. Upheavals can come in many shapes and forms. It can be loss of close family or friend, loss of property and finance, failures in professional and personal lives and so on. We are shocked at first, then we get angry at our fate, and end up despondent as our world turns upside down. How do we deal with such personal calamity? Especially, when we see life that used to be ours, is moving along in its own pace as ususal.
I do not have a direct answer how to deal with such situations. I think our life paradigm needs a relook. Sri Rama Krishna used to narrate a story. A farmer had just lost his only son. Yet he did not show any sign of any grief. His wife complained, “What kind of a man are you? Your only son just died, yet you have no sign of sadness!” Farmer replied, “I had a dream last night. I lost my seven sons in my dream. I am not certain should I mourn for my seven sons or my only son?” Sri Rama Krishna explained, the farmer had realized the fleeting nature of life where dream and wakefulness are two states for a yogi. For a self realized person, sadness and joy are different sides of the same coin. A self realized person does not vascillate by either joy or sadness.
Most of us, however, are not aware of our true purpose. We are not even trained to treat our life’s emergencies the way it should be. We are swayed by our emotions, by our perceived losses. and gains in life. We get caught up with one patch of the road only. We hope good patch will never end. We also anticipate bad patch to be unliveable. Bigger goal is ignored. Most of us are not even aware of the destination.
Tags: Life, Doosra, Cricket, Sri Rama Krishna, Goal, Journey, Society